Eight Ways to Create and Enjoy a Stress Free Time

It is Christmas season, a time when every family gets busy spending. In some cases people outspend themselves. It is a time to put in more hours at work in order to make extra money to meet certain outrageous needs. Teachers are busy grading exams, transportation companies are loading extra packages, IT specialists have overloads, health care workers and law enforcement workers are putting in more time because more accidents have occurred. Everyone is so busy they forget to create personal time.

As we already know, this causes stress. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) says 1 of every 3 adults has high blood pressure and only 54% of those have their blood pressure under control. Researchers say that high blood pressure contributes to at least 1000 deaths each day in America.  People die from a stroke, heart attack, chronic heart failure or kidney disease.

Working too much can lead to depression,  loss of sleep and weight gain. It can also cause cardiovascular problems, stress and heavy dependence on drugs, or make you  withdraw from friends or society.

A stress-free time can help you change the way you feel about yourself. It can also help you treat others better. We need to enjoy the things God has given us. We have to create time for ourselves. Let’s begin now. Here are eight ways to de-stress and feel good.

  1. Plan a vacation: Make plans for a vacation even if you don’t yet have the funds. Planning makes you dream and dreaming is a form of exploration. You can have a vacation while living on a shoestring budget. At least start planning the vacation.


  • Decide where you want to go;
  • how long you want to stay;
  • how much money you need;
  • how you will raise or save the money;
  • research the visa requirements.
  • Master the travel tips for the country you want to visit—the level of security, vaccinations needed and when to take them. Countries with high heat indexes require vaccines against polio, malaria, or typhoid fever.

Your local post office, library, chamber of commerce and department of Homeland security websites have details

  1. Take a vacation: Having a vacation gives you memorable experiences. You’d be surprised how fast meeting and interacting with people in another country will improve your life. A meal, an accent, a way of greeting, gestures, things that bring a smile on people’s faces –they are among simple things we often ignore. You’ll be amazed
  1. Create excitement: Just walk around your home; go to corners you’ve not visited for a long time. You may just find something you thought was missing, something that was useful to you.
  1. Call a friend, a friendly place: Just as you like to hear good things about you, so does someone else, especially acquaintances. Call that person you exchanged phone numbers with and share a positive story. Starting a conversation like that can relieve you.
  1. Exercise in moderation: stretching, biking, walking or working out with friends can make exercising fun. You could be chit chatting with a friend while working out. You won’t be thinking about the strenuous activity. In the end, you’ll feel better.
  1. Meditate: Find a quiet place in your mind and give it a rest.  Meditation can restore your calm and inner peace relieving stress and anxiety and therefore, reduce high blood pressure.  This can work even if only practiced 15 minutes a day.
  1. Eat your favorite food: Read the number of calories and reduce the quantity you want to eat. Eating large amounts of food, especially greasy food can bring weariness and make you feel lazy and bored.


  1. Use a quiet place: You can create a haven where you are and enjoy peace. Turn off the television, radio, and phone, anything that’s making sounds. Go to a quiet place, maybe your closet. If you’re in the office close the door, turn off the lights and just sit. It would feel like sitting in the sand at the beach and basking in the sun.

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The Election is Over. Are Flames Still Growing Around You?

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President-Elect, Donald Trump expects to be sworn in as the leader of the free world January 20, 2017. He is putting together a transitional government, with many people expressing alarm over the ideological worldview of the people he’s choosing.  If you’ve been following social media, traditional media or even listening to conversations around the dinner table, you’ll know that some are crying foul, accusing him of selecting rich people and white supremacists.

Green Party Presidential nominee, Jill Stein, has spearheaded a recount effort in Michigan, Pennsylvania, and Wisconsin “on constitutional grounds”. The Clinton Campaign is supporting the recount. Stein’s argument for the recount on the CNN broadcast, Sunday, December 4, is that the American people should be able to rely on the integrity and security of their votes. And we cannot ignore the 110,000 plus donors who have contributed funds to ensure the recount and the petition signed by millions asking for a recount.

Are they likely to find a significant amount of voter fraud and get the superior court to overturn the outcome of this well documented divisive presidential election? Highly unlikely in my humble opinion. But Americans take pride in their democratic process. Only Americans can fix the problem if the majority agree that their electoral system has cancerous flaws and that there was significant fraud in the counting in the 2016 Presidential Election.

T There have been massive demonstrations across the country.  Some people still can’t understand how the candidate whose campaign was riddled with insults, sexist and racist remarks, and whose proposed policies included preventing Muslims from entering the US, among a myriad of foibles unbeknownst to political scientists and seasoned politicians, could have won. But he did win by a comfortable margin.

Trump’s campaign understood the power of angst and frustration of the American voter and he sang to that choir. And they sang with him November 8, 2016. They were loud enough for everyone in the far reaches of the earth to hear their voice, even violent extremists hiding in bomb-shelled homes and leaders of countries known to political ‘enemies’ to the United States. The Choir believed in the American dream. They believed that nothing is impossible, that you can achieve anything as long as you never give up.

You see why it is possible for a candidate to tweet his way to the most powerful post in the world; why fear-struck people took to social media venting their feelings and expectations after votes had been tabulated, why a lot of Americans in all walks of life are settling down, putting their knowledge resources together to move their country forward.

The American spirit is alive! Americans never give up. They pursue the ideals of freedom, equality, and opportunity.

History and Truth are siblings

Only time will tell if Americans made a mistake. I’m reminded that not long ago, Americans elected a Hollywood actor from a small town as the 40th U.S. president. Ronald Reagan went on to serve America and the world for eight years.  Many had complained he had no political experience.   That cowboy, written off by fear mongers, worked with people from the opposite political party and brought results that Americans and pundits outside America respect this country for till this day. Reagan won the Cold War. By the end of his reign, the Soviet Union the communist regime had collapsed and Reagan had succeeded in saving Western capitalism when he publicly called on then Soviet Union President, Mikhail Gorbachev, to open up the barriers that separated the communist East Berlin capitalist West Berlin. The Wall came down, setting the stage for the spread of capitalism that has enhanced globalization. Reagan’s famous words to “Tear down this wall!” broadcast June 12, 1987, still resonate in our psycho-political conscience today.

With Reagan’s persuasion 3 million immigrants obtained US citizenship in 1986 alone; the year Reagan signed a ‘sweeping reform bill into law. They have been giving birth to Americans children some of who’re today doctors, lawyers, teachers, farmers, business men and women, even priests and evangelists spreading Judeo-Christian values all over the world.

No one ever thought it could happen, of course. It did happen. It can happen again. I know  there’s a difference between an actor and a businessman; a businessman and a politician; a negotiator and a diplomat; an employer and administrator.

Whatever side you’re sticking with doesn’t matter at this point—the businessman and actor have one thing in common. They’re seasoned, experienced.

Trump speaks his mind!!!

Only time will judge who cast the right vote this time.  And who will change the direction of this country over the next four or eight years.

The people have spoken.

Let’s look forward and work together. This is our country, our space!!!

Poem in an upcoming book titled Growing Flames

Open Letter

I speak for these broken legs

and bleeding skulls lying all over this lawn,

for the street dwellers singing war songs all day,

marching with banners

 that spell death for stone-faced despots.


I speak for the women, children, men oppressed

just because they carry no guns.


I speak for those seized from their homes after midnight,

beaten to pulp, for pregnant women kicked about in the groin,

left to bleed and die while their toddlers look on.


I speak for babies crying for breast milk, their feeble muscles jerking like headless cows

left to die on the floors of the slaughterhouse.


I speak for students snatched from their dorms, whisked away to pain stalls, unseen.


I speak for professors questioned for hours about things they didnt say, for scientists yanked from their labs with their stained lab coats

in the hands of the police.


I speak for you out there with broken limbs and no arm—

you whose left leg and right arm were snatched at a rally,


you whose toes secret police chopped at the barracks,

you hiding bloody teeth from a street bystander,

you with handcuffs sitting quietly in the middle of the road, you staring curfew in the face as beer gets warm in the bar,

you kidnapped from a village bar at midnight.


A light burns above your head.